FAILURE IS NOT THE END OF THE ROAD
Ever have that moment filled with immense disappointment when your goals could not be accomplished and your dreams seem all but a figment of your imagination. To many pupils it is the feeling you get, when deep down you knew your potential and how hard you had studied yet you still feel that your result was not a true reflection of your hard work. It is doing 100 maths sums before an exam and barely passing, it is spending numerous hours on a project and only attaining a C, it is killing yourself on the sports field and yet failing to make the first team and for many matriculents it is that depressing moment that, now when your results matter most, you have failed to deliver.
You are consumed with self doubt as to whether you were justified in making certain career decisions. You wonder whether you are clever enough, talented enough, physically and psychologically fit enough to pursue your aspirations. Basically you stop believing in yourself and it is at that exact moment that your dreams become unattainable. Because if you really think about it you are all you’ve got. People could tell you you’re the future Einstein but the words are pointless if it fails to convince the little voice inside your head. You control that little voice and thus you control your destiny.
So if you are feeling exhausted and disheartened at the end of a tiring term, give yourself the opportunity to make peace with the fact that you cannot change your shortcomings. Thereafter start deciding how you would like to redeem yourself. Don’t get trapped feeling sorry yourself but instead set yourself greater challenges. The only thing worse than failing, is not learning from it. Try to establish what your strengths are and improve and cultivate those strengths instead of focusing on your weaknesses. In my opinion trying to work your weaknesses to the level of your strengths is a good thing but makes you fairly average whilst nurturing your strengths and mastering them makes you exceptional. Do yourself a huge favour and stop measuring your success and capabilities according to that of others because we’re all unique with a diversity of talents. The fact that she is a maths boffin does not make you stupid and the fact that he gives a cheetah a run for its money does not mean you’re not athletic. We all have a little genius in us just in our special way.
Einstein once said “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree it will spend its whole life believing that is stupid”. So Settlers, do not sell yourself short by restricting your success to the achievements of others. You owe yourself more than that! Do not allow your failures to dampen your positive attitude but use it as an inspiration to try harder and most importantly eliminate the perception that failure is a bad thing. It merely tests your strength of character. Go out there and show failure what you’re made of!
- Failure does not mean you are stupid for having tried, it means you had the courage to explore and experience to see what works and what doesn’t.
- Failure doesn’t mean you are unable to make decisions, it just means you need to make a different one.
- Failure doesn’t mean you are a loser, it just means you haven’t quite succeeded yet.
- Failure doesn’t mean you haven’t accomplished anything, it means you have learned something along the way.
- Failure doesn’t mean disgrace; it means you had the courage to try.
- Failure doesn’t mean you don’t have what it takes to succeed; it means you have to try a different approach.
- Failure doesn’t mean you have wasted your life; it means you were right to start over.
- Failure doesn’t mean you quit; it means you just need to try harder.
- Failure doesn’t mean you will never succeed; it just means you will need more time.
- Failure doesn’t mean that everything is over; it means that you have a chance to try something new.